When You Feel Like Your Life Been A Jinx!
How to tell yourself a different story to get by the days in survival mode first…
“Don’t talk about it; write.” — Ray Bradbury
I do not know about you. However, I have gone through time when everything is good, and it is all good. When one moment turns bad, everything else becomes bad simultaneously.
I sit back and think about these two moments — good and bad.
Sometimes I wonder if those bad moments happen because of curses or karma of my wrongdoings, magic spells, or my life becoming like a jinx.
And whenever I am tired, I can’t help but to list down that it may be due to my ancestors’ bad deeds too. Are we really tied to our ancestors?
Maybe some of you have grown up in a single parent environment. You may even wonder if it is just you, being the unlucky child born. Am I right?
All these are conjectures, assumptions, myths, or superstitions has been programmed into my head since childhood. I am sure many of you experience the same too — Being Programmed Via Your Mind.
I have to re-learn and re-program my mind to think differently if I want to survive, live, and thrive. My inner child, Maria, begins to console my heart by telling myself a different story.
When your life feels like jinx, you may want to check out these factors.
Remember what your values and beliefs are at that moment when your life feels like a jinx.
Recently, one of my friends passed away at 49 years old.
Some people share their concerns that going to the funeral will bring me more bad luck.
You see… When everyone makes a lot of noise, all you can hear is noise.
Your mind will become a pool of mud. The decision is easy however the noises make you forget who you really are. You can’t think properly.
I often go through this situation and my inner Maria always nudges me answers.
“What is our belief right now at this moment?”
A Christian will go to the funeral to honor the deceased. And they witness there is life after death for the righteous. The body remains behind, but the spirit goes up to be with Jesus.
A Muslim goes to a funeral as an act of faith. Where there is life, there is death. Even Muhammed stands up at the sight of a Jew’s funeral as a form of respect.
I cheered up and headed down to the funeral.
Lesson: Some decisions in life helps with what we hold as our belief and value. It may not be what your parents brought you up going to church or mosque, but deep inside what and where you are spiritually inclined. I am inclined to Mother Mary for intercessions and prayers.
Smile for an hour.
Whenever I am home, I will sit on my mattress facing the laptop. I have the fan blasting directly to myself against the humid weather. I will hug Olaf closing my eyes unable to do anything else even if anything else matters.
If God’s timing is perfect, He sent my mentor’s message at the right time.
“Do me a favor: Smile.” —Alberto García
I am forcing myself to smile even when I am writing this. From just lifting my cheeks and pushing my lips to smile, I feel better although not 100%. The worries stay in my head, and I know there’s nothing I can do.
But smiling for a while give me a bit of energy to think and feel better.
We are allowed to feel sad. We are human. And feeling sad doesn’t equate us to be miserable with life. It’s just a passing moment.
However we are encouraged to cheer up regardless circumstances. I found an advice from watching the movie ‘Flash’.
Not everything requires us to solve. Some issues are only meant for us to go through the storm.
Lesson: “A cheerful spirit is a medicine to the soul. A broken spirit dries up the bones…” — Proverbs.
Being a broken spirit is staying in the slump of sadness for too long. As long as we do not try to cheer up an hour or two, the Universe will not change anything much around us.
Do not stay lukewarm. Renew your mind.
Life seems a continuous challenge of mess. When one test is over, another test comes in my way.
You ask me about Life? I define that Life is a continuous problem with solutions. Where there are problems, there are solutions.
But who should resolve the problems? Not all the time it have to be me. Or you.
When you feel life a jinx where bad moments happen one after another, it’s time to speak a different story.
As a Christian by faith, the people are encouraged to speak by the language of the spirit. Because we are spirit beings.
You can only speak a different language when you choose to renew your mind.
That means, no lukewarm. When my mom said my life is not a blessing, I said Amen. If that’s what she wants because I know that she wants to be right all the time. Pointless to argue.
For myself I said to God: Lord You are rich. You provided for Solomon and the birds in the sky. Am I not worth more than these? I am Abraham seed. I have Your Promises to be the heir to Your Kingdom. For those who wait upon You shall prosper and not be put to shame. Amen.
Lesson: We have increasing mental challenge these days. When you want to survive, live, and thrive… You have to keep renewing your mind. Speak good to yourself even if your parents and families didn’t.
When your life is a jinx of many bad things happen one after another, it isn’t all the ancestors myths, superstitions, curses or magic influences. It’s about your mind.
In these I write to remind myself and hope you will benefit from it too.
XoXo
N. A.
