That Which I Am Learning About French Men In My Workplace
It makes me nervous when I interact with Eurasian from overseas. And it makes me excited to be able to have conversation with them too.
I always feel that their mindset is better than Asians.
I’ve been working in a French restaurant for solid 1 year. I am learning a lot from these men, not kitchen or restaurant skills.
Something along the line of being a human, one of them who is an executive chef makes a big impact in my life.
His sharing in Instagram is simply… “It’s the journey…not the destination.”
And here I am sharing with you what I understand from their personality shaped by their French lifestyle, culture or their life experiences.
As a disclaimer, what I am sharing does not imply that all French men are the same.
They will not hesitate to tell you they love you. They are lovers. They do not like quarrels.
When a French man says he loves you, he is not saying he loves you as his fiancé or wife. Just purely as his own, be it family or close friend by his heart.
It is not easy to receive hugs from the French men. They only welcome hugs and kisses on their cheeks to those they are comfortable with or already know them very well.
When I say kisses, the French men at my workplace do give each other a kiss on the cheeks. Yes, between men to men, they kiss on each other’s cheeks not because they are gay.
They simply show love — a family love.
French men in my workplace love beauty.
Most of them know how to cook and a handful whom I know, are chefs.
Because they love beauty, they take precise attention to the food they eat. They love beautiful taste of cuisines. If they want to spend on food, they prioritize quality over cost.
They are like an artist. The food they display to guests are decorated and presented in a form of an art. If you like art, you will be amazed by how they platter the food.
Of course, it is not all about food. They do love striking conversations with beautiful women.
When I say beautiful, it means really gorgeous women — by physical attributes. Like the models. True beauty from the physical body can trigger interest in them.
However, an inner beauty from the heart will definitely cost them a lot of respect.
French men in my workplace do not tie themselves down to marriage. They are not the marriage material, but they love to date.
So, marriage has been a little of importance to people these days.
One of them do not think of settling down because he does not want commitments. The job requires long hours entertaining guests so, he will not have time for a wife or children.
The French men prefer their career. As they are working, they also have their personal projects or investment. It is for their retirement plan. I am told that one of them is building a vineyard back in France. He has an entrepreneur mindset.
I get to know they love to go on a date. Sometimes, they scout for women over dating apps like Tinder, as a one-night stand. Whether they have sex after their date is another question. Because in these days, sex is underrated.
And if someone has been through a broken relationship twice, I can understand why he will not want to find another partner to settle down too. Having a girlfriend just to be happy with is enough.
French men value the little things as important which most of us take for granted.
The first thing they do upon entering the workplace is to go around greeting others. Yes. They simply go around the workplace to look for whoever is at work.
And they greet everyone like being in a home where everyone says good morning to one another as a start of the day. This teaches me to get over what doesn’t work yesterday. And to look at every morning as a brand-new day.
The French men teaches me not to forget simple courtesy like greeting others because this creates harmony. They prefer friendliness. They like people who are approachable.
They also take life with a pinch of salt. One of them does not take long to get over bad moments. He does not attach his heart to people so much because he knows everyone will go away one day.
So, if you do not reciprocate or acknowledge their kindness or presence, they will kick the dust off their feet and move on. It is a don’t waste my time mentality.
Being a year with them, now I can say that they really give good attention and care to those they love.
I think we will only realize the true nature of people when we encounter or experience them ourselves. As for me, I find beauty in their hearts. Shit. I simply love all them.
💌 Lissa 💌
