The mental challenge they put on us will really drain our energy level
Let us bear in mind that, no matter what we do, nothing will please people with narcissistic traits. As long as they don’t get to destroy us to the fullest, we are only wasting our energy by trying to promote peace with them.
A person who is filled with continuous deep hatred and revengefulness will only be delighted with the death of the person he/she hates.
Their satiation and satisfaction will be fulfilled when they either see the person they have constantly been targeting in their deep hate battling life on a deathbed. It will give them relief from their chest. Then, the narcissistic person will find his/her next target.
If we can recognize these traits in them, we need to affirm ourselves strongly that these narcissistic people are not worth our life being lost. Our life is more precious.
Learn to recognize these personality traits of people who have the narcissistic pattern. Your call to action is to guard your heart and mental health.
We feel intoxicated being with them and their presence sucked the energy level from us very quickly. However, intoxicated is not the word to describe them as an intoxicated person literally refers to someone who is under the effect of drugs or alcohol.
A narcissist is different. This is a person with a personality disorder.
1 — They looked at themselves as the champion for everything and everyone else is inferior. There is a need to be in continuous admiration and constantly speak of something to make themselves ‘godly’ whereas others are supposed to serve them, being inferior.
Arrogant, haughty, boastful, conceited, and lack of gratitude, they can blatantly say with pride like “You can’t buy this house you know why? Because your salary is not enough. Your salary is just too small.”
2 — They ‘barked’ like dogs when they talk with air and pride to the person they hated. They need to use the method of intimidating others with their insolent tone of voice. Others can never raise voices over them. They feel powerful enough to destroy others.
In layman’s terms: We are seen as stupid and weak, but they are very smart and strong.
Everyone else in the family who isn’t on par with them is a total loser, failure, and a disgrace.
They are the only one who is right especially when they held paper educational certificates like a degree to be their success and everyone else without a degree is as good as a street beggar.
3 — They will not take accountability for the task. They are good at instructing others. When anything goes wrong, they will point their fingers at others.
They will not do it in front of us but a narcissistic person tends to rub others to believe what they said about us behind our back. At the end of the day, they sat at a corner enjoying themselves watching others fight, quarrel, and break apart.
Usually a narcissist personality traits will aim for the managerial or command position. They saw the need to ensure nobody or very few people are to command them. This is their safe zone. They enjoyed having the power to determine the destiny of other people thinking they are indispensable.
4 — Their favorite pastime or hobby is igniting a spark of hatred between people. They will find a target to use.
Usually, a narcissistic person will call person ‘A’ to instruct person ‘B’ to do things. Getting 2-persons into friction in a relationship is their entertaining spree, as long as the narcissistic person isn’t hated by others.
When they know that their shenanigans had been discovered and their dirty tricks of tell-tales are not believed by us, they will use other people to give us the ‘sound advice’.
We will end up hated by the people who just seemed lacking intelligence but believe what they hear from the narcissist person so easily.
5 — They only think of their own interest and whatever they needed to achieve in life. So when they needed help, they will expect those who help to be sincere.
When we asked them for help, they will never be willing to do so. When they fall short of glory everyone must help them up. The whole world owes them!
Some of these narcissistic personalities tend to take an apology as a game.
When in dire traits, they will apologize to us and expect that everything is ok. Once they had what they wanted from us, they will start to torture us again in any way they could.
Manipulative. That is the word. Their selfishness is at the expense of others.
6 — A narcissistic person does not have many long-term friendships. When one of the family members tends to mix around well, they will always be extremely concerned. Their minds will start speculating on anything by assumptions when things go wrong.
“When she got money, she gave it to all her friends instead of saving…”
In actual fact, our money mostly goes to the narcissistic fella and those they loved. They will never admit it. They will gather people as narcissistic as themselves to form a ‘support group’. They have the tendency to preach religious phrases but other people cannot preach to them.
“What left hand gives, right hand should not know!…”
At all costs, they will try to make us into frictions with our friends.
A narcissistic person can never be at ease looking at us happy socializing. They liked it when we are an island of our own.
Being in a congregation makes us stronger, but being alone is an easier target for them to crush us down. At all cost, they wanted us to be friendless. They must not see us having supporters. Only they can gang up for supporters of hatred.
These are just a few descriptions. There are more. When we can recognize their character traits, we have to be on guard a lot more to preserve our energy.
It is not worth losing our life because of a narcissistic person even if they appeared to be in our family.
When we are living in a house with this personality disorder, joy and happiness are very hard to last longer. Marriages with narcissistic person within the circle tend to end in a divorce. People walked away from religion or believing in God are also because they are affected by these narcissistic fellas. It is easy to say God isn’t wrong, but nobody knows the mental torture one goes through daily living among them.
