Life & Healing
How Long More Will I Take To Heal?
Someone wrote something like this, and I believe most of you would resonate with it.
People often mention that time heals all pain. But, I think that is not true. I still have the pain after so many years. When will I heal? — Anonymous
I encouraged someone a while ago when the question came. This was what I had written because I knew how it felt.
“… all of us are not healed from certain pains differently. I have my pains too, and like you, I wonder when I will heal. It dawned upon me that it is not time, but what I do along the time that heals. The process. The strategy. The actions I take and how I think to manage it until I no longer feel the pain because I have overcome it.
Wow. Seriously. Where did I get that answer?
That is the hidden message here for me, which I wanted to share with you.
Everything in this world came in pairs.
- There would not be you without your parents.
- Pearls came within the living shelled mollusk.
- There would not be problems without solutions.
The solutions had been hidden within us all along. It took a while to hear ourselves!
How many of you ever noticed that you said something encouraging and realized it was for yourself?
I just did.
It felt like a fraud. Like BichoDoMato described his “About Me” hilariously, frauds! Was that me encouraging someone else about healing? Did my mind not enrage the whole day?
We would know when words came from the bottom of our heart. All of us had pains yet to heal.
As for me, they gave me headaches for days that I did not enjoy fasting. It was just one of those days when I could not take it.
I am a human. Praise The Lord!
It is an honor to keep realizing authentically within us that we are a human being. Thus, there would be a limit in which we could control against what we could not.
However, when you heard these words from whom you expected them to come, there wasn’t any impact. The punch is not there. You do not feel encouraged.
The feeling of a sudden weight of enlightenment came over you at the
- least expected time
- the least expected moment, and
- the least expected person who were often strangers…like you and me.
Again, let us read what I wrote to someone a day ago…
But hey! You came a long way in your life. I am going 40s, and there are many things I have not achieved, and I live with a lot of pains too. But one thing for sure is, that I want to live each day, truly living. Being at the present moment is the best moment to trust the process we will heal.
Yes. I am sure that is how we heal. Trust the process and live in the present.
Do you know what you want?
I found one of my answers today from connecting with you. I want to live each day, truly living! In the process, I will get healed.
The actions referred to our lifestyle. What we do daily would determine the rate and quality of healing within us. Our alarm clock rang as a prompt — check out our lifestyle.
Let me include a last example here because I do not want to forget this.
When you broke up with your lover, time took so long to heal the pain within you. Because day-in and day-out, you might have constantly cringed at the pain, lamented hate against the person, and stayed in bed unable to face what-if-the-world-said-something bad.
Someone else who had been heartbroken decided to journey through days for healing.
She went out and walked 1 kilometer in the evenings. The distance increased to 2 kilometer, then 3 kilometer, and then 4 kilometer. She did not realize how time had passed. She took part in 5 kilometers run and completed it.
6-months later, she became fit, felt good, increased her confidence and self-esteem. She realized losing a relationship was actually liberating herself. She attracted better friends and met someone better.
The reason some of us got into depression had been all along the way of life we lived. I think that would be a good homework. For me. For you. Or for those who needed this.
So, when time does not heal the pain, it is because it is not the time that heals it. It is in my thoughts, choices, actions, and trusting the process of healing that determines how much I will get healed.
🐻Good Night. Do bless someone with a meal. 🐻
